This is coming from a daughter who’s father committed suicide when I was 13…

I didn’t know he was hurting because he did not speak up. I didn’t know he needed help because he never went to get help. I didn’t know he didn’t think I loved him because he was too self absorbed in his own world to see that I did and he allowed depression to cloud his reality.

So guess what, he thought about himself and what he perceived others as (non loving)… and without regard to how it would fudge up my life… he ended his. HE didn’t speak up. HE didn’t get help. HE decided not to see the love and beauty in HIS life. And HE made the decision to take the weak way out.

Yet his problem that he chose not to face has become mine for the past 33 years.

Now tell me that that isn’t selfish.

Smarten up and get help.

i would only say it was selfish if the people in that person’s life were trying to help them- then it would cause the people who loved that person a lot of emotional pain.

ok yeah some people may not act like they love you BUT they do. Even if it’s just one person. Committing suicide is selfish just because someone is willing to hurt another just to stop their own suffering.

I dig where you’re coming from. I’ve been in the same boat, kind of, still am, kind of.

To answer your general question:

I think suicide is selfish because even though you feel useless or tired or like you have nothing left to live for, there are people who love you and need you. Think about if someone you love killed themself? You would be hurt. You would think it was selfish of them.

It sounds like you need a life makeover. Start small, feel confident in yourself and make new friends, online or real life friends. Someone supportive and understanding to talk to. You say you have no job, there are jobs to be had, maybe nothing glamorous, but I think you’ll find that once you get started working and being around new people, the rest will slowly come. Don’t set your standards too high.

If for nobody else, live for you. You are here for a reason! So, try to get a new outlook on life….. Maybe in 5 years you’ll look back at this time in your life and think, ‘Man! That was a tough time, but look at me now.’ …wouldn’t that be great? The only person who can change your world is you!!!

Its like that corny saying on commercials about not doing drugs; "You’re not just hurting yourself. You’re hurting everyone else." Imagine this. Someone kills themself. Regardless of how your peers/parents w/e feel about you, how bad you were treated, you decide for all those people what they are gonna think about almost every day. Whenever some jokes and says "Aw man i would rather kill myself than do that!" you instantly think about the deceased. Even when the hurt caused ceases, the memory never ceases. and if you’re religious (christian) you constantly think about that person burning in hell. it is selfish. My advice: seek out somebody who has been in this situation and let them talk to you.

It is a selfish act.

Problems are meant to be solved. That’s our purpose. So the economy sucks. Maybe it won’t be that way forever. But everyone else in America has to face it. We get by, somehow. And jobs only suck if we don’t apply ourselves. It’s still a living. As far as violence and crimes- some neighborhoods are better than others. (THERE’S A SOLUTION TO EVERY PROBLEM)

Find out what people say about you and either ignore it or try to use that info to make yourself a better person. That’s how I got through. I couldn’t be prouder, these days.

There are other jobs. Just keep looking.

THINGS ALWAYS GET BETTER SOMEHOW.

But- to answer your question- suicide is selfish. While the rest of us squander to make a decent life for ourselves and our families, some people decide to take the easy way out. But who pays for the funeral service? Who ends up paying off their bills after they’re gone? Who’s there to comfort them for the loss of a loved one? It plays a MAJOR role on ALL the deceased one’s survivors.

My children’s father committed suicide back in 2001. Immediately, his family, his children and I ALL experienced deep depressions. His children and his sister still haven’t fully recovered from it. It changed their lives and it hasn’t been pleasant. I HAD to stop grieving so that I could comfort my children and his sister. When he killed himself, he thought nothing of the reprocussions on everyone else.

The pain doesn’t just go away after you’re gone. The pain is transferred to ALL your loved ones TENFOLD afterward.

And on top of that, we STILL have to deal with worldly problems.

Those who think that suicide is the answer. They need to reconsider.

It’s a cop out. Plus you hurt the people you leave. I believe that you are given lessons until you’ve learnt them – then u move on. What you don’t learn in this life you will just have to come back in your next life and do it all again until you learn that lesson. Sounds to me you are stuck in a rut. People get like that I know i did. Then a councillor said to me: "If your not out of your comfort zone – Your not growing"
Think about it – Maybe you need a change do something different I find books a good teacher. Go to the library and wander around and a book will find you – you will just be attracted to it. Or join a group do pottery, lead lighting. No money – volunteer – it makes you feel good inside. I love pleasing other people (I’m whats know as a people pleaser) "Set your self Free" a book by Shirley Smith. Just walk a different way, get a different hair cut, just be strong & stuff everyone else look after you – do what u want to do. Good Luck & Hug

I’m going through something right now and I’m feeling suicidal for the first time in my entire life. I never understood why anyone would want to die up until now. This is the worst feeling I have ever felt and now I understand what it’s like to want to give up. I will never ever hurt myself but I feel like I want to. It’s eating away at me and it’s terrible. I used to roll my eyes when people would say they want to die, I would tell them to get over it and tell them things could always be worse…but now, I wish I knew what I know now. I never would have said those things.

It sound like you’ve got serious issues that you need help working through. Suicide is selfish because the people you leave behind not only lose someone they love but also tend to blame themselves for it asking themselves what they should have done differently.

Have you even spoken to any of your family about how you feel?

If I were you, I’d get some professional help. It sounds like you’re pretty depressed and without help, it’s unlikely to get better.